To the older members (17+)

[@K]

I've just been reading through some of the 'love' and 'relationship' topics on here, and have found it quite amusing reading what some of the younger members have been typing, for example; their views on serious relationships at 13 years of age, and feeling love at 11. The fact that they think they are right always aswell makes me chuckle, I mean us lot who have been there and experienced our teenage years (early teen years) are wrong, because we can't possibly be right as they are different people. Even when it's nothing to do with opinion, but FACT.

Now the reason for this topic is I was just wondering, do you remember be this 'ignorant' (can't think of a better word) all those years ago?

I for one, honestly don't think I was like that, say 10 years ago. But it has been a long time so I may very well just not remember :rolleyes:

When I was 11,12,13, even 16, for me it wasn't about relationships and 'love', it was about playing footy with my mates, maybe even smoking a joint, and if I asked for advice from an older person, i.e my brother, I would take in what he said and try and learn from what he told me.

[Arch]

I'm 17 so i suppose this pertains too me, tbh i think i've felt love or atleast had the feeling of a crush, but
no matter how old you are whether its 6, 17, or 87 how can you exactly define love? Love can be different for everyone
so yeah maybe some of the younger members are caught up in something but i mean can you truly say what it is or isnt ?

Although i suggest living by 2 of my own personal rules FBGM and SWED for the males atleast

[Pyroka]

I know this is gonna sound a bit mad, but I'm jealous of those kids who think they're in love and all this. At least back then I'd be fixated on someone and that'd be that, but I'm 19 now and I can fancy like 20 odd people at one time and nobody really stands out anymore. Agreed that I used to be "ignorant" when it comes to that... I think I've wised up... I think.

[Jamesy]

I can remember. I remember year nine being basically running about chasing whoever walked past with reasonably good looks and a vagina and being obsessed with them for a week or two until they told me to bugger off and then the next one came along. It's easy to get lost in your own self delusions, as I found out for half a year or so in my last relationship which ended a couple of months ago. I don't really feel like Ryan does in that I am jealous, because I think I was a major **** back then in how I went about it - although these days I'm the opposite, far too cautious .

I don't think it's fair to criticise younger people for it, it's quite sweet especially if they do get on really well and you never know, some of them may last on well into their older teens and beyond .

[danzooo]

When i was about 14/15 years old i disregarded everything that older people told me about "love", i always thought you could love regardless of your age.

But I've just come out of a relationship that lasted for 17 months and I can confidently say that that is the only time I've felt real, proper "love". I don't believe you can until you reach about 17/18 years old, which is why I can't understand 13 and 14 year olds who think they are gay/bi/lez whatever - surely you can't know properly until you're old enough to love someone. But at the same time, I don't even think that is real love, surely you can't love someone you've only been with for a year in the same way that a couple that have been married for 20 years do?

The comment about someone being jealous of their ignorance - i'm jealous too, at that age, you've nothing to worry about in terms of someone always being there who you can't help but have feelings for. I'd love to go back to being 14 and "fancying" girls.

[dbgtz]

I'm actually 15 and I feel like I'm past that lol. I'm not going to lie and say like ohh I felt love already cos that's bull and I kinda agree with the guy who said you can't feel it until you're older tbh, cos I no way feel it now to anyone and the closest person I think I could potentially feel it to, I don't. It's the hormones/too much TV which makes people think it's love.

[buttons]

I don't believe you can until you reach about 17/18 years old, which is why I can't understand 13 and 14 year olds who think they are gay/bi/lez whatever - surely you can't know properly until you're old enough to love someone.

srsly....why not?


i'm 17 and i'm the type of person who falls for someone really quickly (mind you it lasts a maximum of 2 months). however, at the time i seriously believe i'm in love (lol) and nothing will convince me otherwise. i can tell you now, looking back, the only time i think i was actually in love was my first proper relationship when i was 14-15 years old. nothing has ever come close and i don't think it ever will and i can't see myself looking back in years to come thinking it was a silly little teenage thing because it's not. idk maybe it's true you always remember your first love but love doesn't have an age limit. no-one can tell someone else they're not in love when they're not in the situation nor experiencing it, so why people feel the need to preach it to young people, no matter their sexuality, is beyond me.

[T@R]

I think it's a bit harsh to call them ignorant, especially as you admitted we've all gone through that phase, and I think that's what it is, just a phase.
Once you enter secondary school there's so much going on its easy to get confused and sometimes emotions run high, so to them, it IS love.
I remember the same thing happening to me when I was 13, when my "girlfriend" of 3 weeks dumped me, I was distraught for a week, but then was best friends with her the week after!

[Zak]

To be honest I never really had a relationship till age 14, I had a few mess about relationships but this was the first time for me that I actually took it seriously. I ended up loosing my virginity to her and being with her until I was nearly 17, I thought I was in love if I'm honest, I was upset when I ended it but I knew it wasn't what I wanted so I thought best not to carry it on anymore. I got over it in a month, which imo is not even close to being in love.

I think even at that age I was still too young and niave, and maybe am still now. Or maybe haven't met the 'right' person yet. Still not really sure what love feels like, I'm over her now.. she's now dating my friend and I'm ok with that My parents told me as they both have one previous long-term relationship it took my mum 4 years to get over her ex! and 13 years for my dad!...

All I say is don't settle down and get all serious young, I wish I'd had more fun when I was a little younger! I don't think they're ignorant maybe just a little inexperienced in the matter, as I was at their age

[Callum.]

I'm unsure. I went out with a lot of girls til I got bored and ended it after a few weeks. I think they should be enjoying their time with whatever they have rather than looking for love. In all fairness, if someone had told me not to 'love' this person or chase them I wouldn't have took any notice, but I would have looked back and thought what a waste of time it was. It's all about mistakes, I have many, but I'd never change them.

I've been totally put off relationships now. 7 months to then move half way across the world, just puts a downer on things. I never thought I experienced proper love, but then when it all fell apart it's only now I realise it.