How to deal with failure?

[Gibs960]

Basically we had this test a week or so ago and I did really bad on it even though I revised for hours. My teacher was saying that I should have revised more, even though all the highest marks in my class were attained by people that didn't revise. To make it even worse my friends aren't even being supportive, they just think it's a laugh and start making fun of me. So now, I'm dreading telling my dad and have made an excuse that we don't know our results. Don't know what I'm supposed to do.

[Matthew]

Was it an important test, like an A level or something?
If not, don't worry about it at all... I've done poorly in some of my mocks but came out with good results in the real thing (like 60% in my C2 mock which I managed to get up to ~90% in the real thing)

Just move on really, there's no point worrying about the result. Its done, you can't go back in time and do it again so its best to put it behind you (but learn from the mistakes).

[geo]

yeah, if it's just a practice or a mock that you've done bad in, don't worry about it and tell them. they could possibly help you revise next time around and if you've done bad now, you can see what areas you've not done so good in, and try revising more on your weak areas to do better next time.

[Inseriousity.]

By not seeing failure as the end of the world but accepting it as a part of life. When you're walking up the stairs and you trip, you don't think uhoh I'm going down, you think LOL silly me, correct yourself and keep walking up. That's how I deal with failure.

[Samantha]

For my GCSE Applied Science exam I spent approximately 35 hours revising apparently and got an E, I gained more with less revision and you just need to make sure you're not blagging your head too much with all the information that you might not need as well.

Don't be scared to tell your dad if it wasn't that important of a test, just say you're going to do better next time and when it comes to the proper ones you won't let him down; if they laugh don't let it get to you, perhaps you'll eventually get the last one anyway :P?

[Gibs960]

For my GCSE Applied Science exam I spent approximately 35 hours revising apparently and got an E, I gained more with less revision and you just need to make sure you're not blagging your head too much with all the information that you might not need as well.

Don't be scared to tell your dad if it wasn't that important of a test, just say you're going to do better next time and when it comes to the proper ones you won't let him down; if they laugh don't let it get to you, perhaps you'll eventually get the last one anyway :P?

I just know my dad will shout, whether it's an unimportant test or not. He'll say I haven't revised enough and that I'm a failure and all this. Last time I did badly in my maths test he said I was gonna go down into "the dummy set" and end up doing nothing with my life. Maths have never been my strong point, and I don't intend to carry on with it after GCSE but he seems to have a go at me however hard I try.

He gives me all this crap about trying my best but when I genuinely do do my best, it still isn't good enough. I thought "yeah, I'll probably scrape a B", instead I got a D, about 30% of the marks. I feel like I've let myself down but I genuinely didn't think I'd do this badly, especially after how much I revised, compared to other people who got A's through doing no revision.

[Cerys]

It wasn't even important if you're on about the set-changes one.

Seriously, who really cares haha. Aslong as you did the best you could, just tell them all to go away.

+ if your friends are laughing at you, they can't be that good friends.

[Rozi]

KEEP TRYING. JUST KEEP TRYING.


Although you put in the effort this time, and it didn't pay off, think about all the things you've learnt, and how, if you keep trying, it will ACCUMULATE.

I missed a lot of school, and so was behind in a lot of subjects, including maths. I started putting in the effort, and although it didn't nessecarily show at first, I ended up getting better and better, and got moved up a set!

So just keep trying, and imagine how haps your dad will be when you get home with that B you wanted.



also, if he doesn't believe you're working then do it right in front of him and tell him to shut up cause you're trying to work. That also worked for me.

[wiktoria]

try different revision methods from your current one

[e5]

I just know my dad will shout, whether it's an unimportant test or not. He'll say I haven't revised enough and that I'm a failure and all this. Last time I did badly in my maths test he said I was gonna go down into "the dummy set" and end up doing nothing with my life. Maths have never been my strong point, and I don't intend to carry on with it after GCSE but he seems to have a go at me however hard I try.

He gives me all this crap about trying my best but when I genuinely do do my best, it still isn't good enough. I thought "yeah, I'll probably scrape a B", instead I got a D, about 30% of the marks. I feel like I've let myself down but I genuinely didn't think I'd do this badly, especially after how much I revised, compared to other people who got A's through doing no revision.

The idea of mocks is to give you a chance to practice, and if you fail, you find your weak points and revise them harder. Failing tests does not mean you will fail in life. You need to watch this video.


http://www.youtube.com/watch?client=mv-google&gl=GB&hl=en&v=D-eVF_G_p-Y&nomobile=1

[zombies]

DONT BECOME LIKE ME. i ****** up my JOB and i will never hear the end of it. my dad thinks im failure. recently i had a job interview and he says "i know you're going to **** it up". urgh, so unsupportive! it's really upset me ever since its happened. so please dont let it bother you:)

[Yawn]

a D at GCSE in a subject u dont even want to continue with.....i think u need 2 calm the hell down

1) GCSEs r worthless once u get into A levels

2) its not even in a subject u want to continue in

3) a D isnt even that bad

4) its a mock exam i dont even see wat the problem is it doesnt matter.

ur friends r probs right to be laughing at u for being so melodramatic. just lie to ur dad and calm down

[Catchy]

a D at GCSE in a subject u dont even want to continue with.....i think u need 2 calm the hell down

1) GCSEs r worthless once u get into A levels

2) its not even in a subject u want to continue in

3) a D isnt even that bad

4) its a mock exam i dont even see wat the problem is it doesnt matter.

ur friends r probs right to be laughing at u for being so melodramatic. just lie to ur dad and calm down

This basically. I left school with absolutely **** GCSE's not gonna lie, does that mean I'm doing nothing with my life? No. I've travelled, I've seen the world and there's so much more to it that a bit of paper. Anyhow there's ALWAYS different routes you can take, I'm going to university in September to train as a midwife, would I have ever thought I was 'clever' enough or good enough to get onto such a highly competitive course, no I wouldn't of. You just need to pick yourself up and get on with it and remember there's always different options you can take no matter what. You'll get to where you want to be eventually and it'll feel SO good!

[sex]

do not take advice from catchy you will end up with substantial credit card debt and possibly and sti

[Shar]

I was pretty much in your shoes once I finished my GCSEs. I went onto a levels and pretty much ****** them up too. didn't think I'd ever obtain a levels let alone go to university to study what I am. I'm sorry for sounding harsh but you need to get over yourself and try harder, push yourself. believe that you can do it and have a look at your revision techniques and see if you can make any changes to them or use other methods. parents have expectations but you can only achieve what you're capable of. just try your hardest and don't compare yourself to others because then you'll lose focus on yourself. There's so much out there GCSEs aren't the end of the world so don't worry about it and try your best.

[Richie]

I tend to argue the fact that I didn't try my best or didn't study, even if I really did just to avoid embarrassment / the thought of failure :P. I'd say just explain to your dad that you tried your best but that's if you actually did try your best and aren't just saying that because you're like me and like to make excuses :P I'm sure he'll understand and even if he doesn't it ain't the end of the world.

[Pringe]

Really & truly, I'd say you just ignore them. You know to yourself that you have studied and you tried your best. I can relate majorly to this topic.. Recently I had an exam and failed to attain a good grade. My entire family is basically made up of geniuses. They all performed great academically. I also had to tell a few lies such as "the teacher didn't give us the results yet" etc. But eventually I told them, and they just went off on me. I was distressed. I didn't know what to do, until one day I finally realized how to deal with this. All i told myself was that it all comes down to one thing. You are who you are and they have to accept you for who you are. What has been done, had to be done for a reason. It's over. Nothing you can do to change it and they have to understand that. That's how I've learnt to cope with failure. Hope I helped.. And about your friends.. They should be supporting you and trying to help you instead of just laughing at you.. I wish you all the best in any further exams.

P.S: Don't forget to keep studying & reviewing your work that you do at school. Drink water & get necessary rest to keep your brain healthy!

Lee

[Empired]

Sitting down and telling yourself you're going to fail probably is the best way to fail.

Honestly, teachers go on about how much exam results matter and how your whole life will end and you will burn in a pit in hell if you don't get an A*, but this isn't really true. They only say it because if you do badly it makes them and the school look bad.

Just ignore all of them and do what makes you happy.. Or something less cheesy? :)

[Grig]

Drink hard.

Don't worry about it, it's not the biggest deal in the world. These things happen all the time to many people and if you keep worrying, it's only ever going to affect you and stress you out.

Although tbh, GCSE maths is piss easy (and a D isn't that great at GCSE level). You just got to practice some exam techniques and the questions do tend to be similar in one form or another. You have time, so use past papers and keep practicing until you see your weak points and focus on them and then keep doing them till you ace them. Once the exam comes it'll be a breeze.

You say you try hard and that's superb, but think about your revision techniques, those make a huge difference in things like GCSE and crap. But at the end of the day no matter what, you can always pick yourself up and become extremely stressful. A stupid medial GCSE is important for the next stage, but isn't crucial.

[Zak]

I just know my dad will shout, whether it's an unimportant test or not. He'll say I haven't revised enough and that I'm a failure and all this. Last time I did badly in my maths test he said I was gonna go down into "the dummy set" and end up doing nothing with my life. Maths have never been my strong point, and I don't intend to carry on with it after GCSE but he seems to have a go at me however hard I try.

He gives me all this crap about trying my best but when I genuinely do do my best, it still isn't good enough. I thought "yeah, I'll probably scrape a B", instead I got a D, about 30% of the marks. I feel like I've let myself down but I genuinely didn't think I'd do this badly, especially after how much I revised, compared to other people who got A's through doing no revision.

Your dad seems like a right ******* if you ask me.

[Firehorse]

I would say the most important tests in your entire life will be your GCSE's. They're the ones that will dictate whether you're employable, whether you can study A Levels etc. If you don't get at least a C in English and Maths then you're going nowhere so those are the two most important subjects to focus on. After GCSE's you have more freedom, even if you fail your A Levels it's not going to necessarily set you back in the same way failing your GCSE's would, you can do foundation years at university or take on an apprenticeship instead (which is highly recommended, employers prefer hiring apprentices over graduates for the vast majority of jobs, unless you're looking to get into a specialist area such as medicine or engineering, as they have experience already and can obtain a reference from the previous employer), where you quite literally get paid to learn and come out with an NVQ at the end of it.

Do note that GCSE's tend to have an unofficial expiry date. If you take your GCSE's and then don't start taking on a career path within the following 3 or 4 years you may have to resit them for them to be considered valid.

Don't stress yourself over SAT's and don't stress over A Levels either. SAT's just help your school determine which ability group to put you in for your GCSE years, which also determines which level paper you sit (which will affect your final grade so still aim high nonetheless). Pick your A Levels to be in a more specific field of interest to yourself and focus on learning about the subjects rather than just preparing yourself for the final exams - in the long run it will help you out a lot more. The best all-round A Level subject (if you're unsure of what you'd like to do in future) is Maths, which is the foundation for the majority of specialist areas you may or may not want to study at university.

Avoid picking any lackluster subjects like Media (or Art, despite it being a popular one). These subjects really don't shine on your CV (Art is an exception for design-related work, but Media is useless - even if you want a job in Media you're better off studying English).

All in all, if you don't get brilliant grades then don't worry yourself, grades aren't a valid measurement of general intelligence and that's definitely something you can stress in interviews.

If you're younger than 20 and already earning £18k on an apprenticeship, or having been taken on after an apprenticeship, then it's highly likely you'll be earning more than the vast majority of graduates on starting salaries (starting salaries being around £25k-£30k on average) by the time your school colleagues will be doing their university finals at age 22; plus you'll already have a job while they struggle to find work.

For now just enjoy being young and not having to worry about that stuff yet!

[Yawn]

idk wat hashterix is on about cos GCSEs r gd for nothing but getting u into ur A levels. u MIGHT need a minimum C in ur maths for some uni courses but thats it, otherwise u will never see ur GCSE results again once u r in ur A level course of choice. hes lying 2 u.

telling u that u will go no where in life if u dont get a C in maths or english GCSE pmsl yh right wat kind of ignorant LIES but then going on to say grades arent important and u dont have anything to worry about if u fail?? contradictions and BS everywhere who the hell +repped him

[Shar]

Avoid picking any lackluster subjects like Media (or Art, despite it being a popular one). These subjects really don't shine on your CV (Art is an exception for design-related work, but Media is useless - even if you want a job in Media you're better off studying English).
Media's no maths but it teaches you a lot. I'm glad I chose it despite it being looked down on by some universities, granted I chose 3 more "academic" subjects. But yeah there's no harm in picking "lackluster" subjects of you enjoy them, even if you're choosing a career path which is in no way related to them.

[Catchy]

idk wat hashterix is on about cos GCSEs r gd for nothing but getting u into ur A levels. u MIGHT need a minimum C in ur maths for some uni courses but thats it, otherwise u will never see ur GCSE results again once u r in ur A level course of choice. hes lying 2 u.

telling u that u will go no where in life if u dont get a C in maths or english GCSE pmsl yh right wat kind of ignorant LIES but then going on to say grades arent important and u dont have anything to worry about if u fail?? contradictions and BS everywhere who the hell +repped him

lmfao !! i have to agree with subo here, I am resitting my maths gcse this yr cos i never got it at school but the funniest thing is my uni isn't even asking for it, they just want the level 2 equivalent which i have... so i agree with subo here

[Amberr]

I can see what Hashterix is saying, if GCSE's were pointless what would be the point in doing them? Yes they say to get at least a C in maths and english but if you were aiming for the higher rated universities and were being compared with other students with similar a levels then they will look at your GCSE's. They are more likely to take on those who are the higher achievers.

Back to 'dealing with failure', in all honesty you need to get over it. If the test doesn't go towards your final grade then all you need to do is to work harder for next time. At least now you know what your weak points are and you can work on those to make sure that the same mistakes do not happen again. If you feel like you are struggling with something, ask for help. There is no point crying about being a 'failure' if you are not going to do something about it.

Just read that back, didn't mean to sound rude. I know maths (I think its maths you are on about?) isn't for everyone, i struggled with it at school. Like as others have said, it is not the 'end of the world' and don't think that if you don't achieve the grades you are hoping for that you won't end up having a good career. There are plenty of opportunities nowadays you can look into.

EFFORT TO TYPE ANYMORE SO GOOD LUCK

[Yawn]

if u were aiming for a more competitive uni u wouldnt be struggling to get a C at gcse in the 1st place

theyre not pointless but they r nothing but a stepping stone and once u have them and ur at ur next step (a levels) they r virtually irrelevant

[lemons]

ye like subo said, all gcses matter for is getting a place in sixth form/college and if you're looking to do competitive courses like medicine you need top top grades

[Firehorse]

idk wat hashterix is on about cos GCSEs r gd for nothing but getting u into ur A levels. u MIGHT need a minimum C in ur maths for some uni courses but thats it, otherwise u will never see ur GCSE results again once u r in ur A level course of choice. hes lying 2 u.

telling u that u will go no where in life if u dont get a C in maths or english GCSE pmsl yh right wat kind of ignorant LIES but then going on to say grades arent important and u dont have anything to worry about if u fail?? contradictions and BS everywhere who the hell +repped him

Firstly you're being rather hyprocritical, judging by your incorrect use of grammar and text language you're either still sitting your GCSE's or haven't reached that stage yet. I have been through SAT's, GCSE's, A Levels, a further education course, as well as various job interview processes so it might be wise for you to take a couple of pointers instead of just shrugging off well-grounded advice.
Most universities wouldn't even consider taking you on if you didn't have a grade C or higher in GCSE maths, for most courses.
You definitely will be seeing your GCSE grades again, every job interview you go to will be interested in your GCSE grades - even McDonald's will avoid hiring somebody who doesn't have a C in GCSE maths.
As for your claim of me being hyprocritical, read my post again. I stressed the importance of GCSE's and mentioned that the other types were somewhat less important. GCSE's set the foundations of all your future education in the UK.


lmfao !! i have to agree with subo here, I am resitting my maths gcse this yr cos i never got it at school but the funniest thing is my uni isn't even asking for it, they just want the level 2 equivalent which i have... so i agree with subo here

You just proved my point by stating you're resitting your maths GCSE.


ye like subo said, all gcses matter for is getting a place in sixth form/college

This is incorrect. If you do not have good GCSE grades then consider yourself unemployable.

[lemons]

This is incorrect. If you do not have good GCSE grades then consider yourself unemployable.

Okay Lord Alan Sugar

[Catchy]

Firstly you're being rather hyprocritical, judging by your incorrect use of grammar and text language you're either still sitting your GCSE's or haven't reached that stage yet. I have been through SAT's, GCSE's, A Levels, a further education course, as well as various job interview processes so it might be wise for you to take a couple of pointers instead of just shrugging off well-grounded advice.
Most universities wouldn't even consider taking you on if you didn't have a grade C or higher in GCSE maths, for most courses.
You definitely will be seeing your GCSE grades again, every job interview you go to will be interested in your GCSE grades - even McDonald's will avoid hiring somebody who doesn't have a C in GCSE maths.
As for your claim of me being hyprocritical, read my post again. I stressed the importance of GCSE's and mentioned that the other types were somewhat less important. GCSE's set the foundations of all your future education in the UK.



You just proved my point by stating you're resitting your maths GCSE.



This is incorrect. If you do not have good GCSE grades then consider yourself unemployable.

resitting it for myself more than anything. if i get a d again it REALLY isn't going to be the end of the world. im studying midwifery in september, VERY competitive course to get onto but i've done it and in give or take 3 years ill be a registered midwife with a professional career and a nice salary and like i said previously i didn't have the best gcse results lol

oh and Hashterix; gd one going all grammar nazi on subo; do u think anybody actually cares... this is a habbo forum

[Yawn]

Firstly you're being rather hyprocritical, judging by your incorrect use of grammar and text language you're either still sitting your GCSE's or haven't reached that stage yet. I have been through SAT's, GCSE's, A Levels, a further education course, as well as various job interview processes so it might be wise for you to take a couple of pointers instead of just shrugging off well-grounded advice.
Most universities wouldn't even consider taking you on if you didn't have a grade C or higher in GCSE maths, for most courses.
You definitely will be seeing your GCSE grades again, every job interview you go to will be interested in your GCSE grades - even McDonald's will avoid hiring somebody who doesn't have a C in GCSE maths.
As for your claim of me being hyprocritical, read my post again. I stressed the importance of GCSE's and mentioned that the other types were somewhat less important. GCSE's set the foundations of all your future education in the UK.



You just proved my point by stating you're resitting your maths GCSE.



This is incorrect. If you do not have good GCSE grades then consider yourself unemployable.unfortunately for u ur random assumptions about my level of education have failed u. just cos i use text language on a habbo forum doesnt mean i cant spell perfectly well if i want 2. get back 2 patronising me over my intentional spelling errors when u can use an apostrophe correctly (especially when ur evidently trying 2 type correctly) lolololol :-)

and no ur wrong as i know that from experience as well :-)


All in all, if you don't get brilliant grades then don't worry yourself, grades aren't a valid measurement of general intelligence

as u said urself which pretty much summarises everything anyway.....:-)

but furthermore......yes they set the foundations yada yada yada but once u have passed them they r massively IRRELEVANT. even without getting a C in GCSE u can still continue ur studies and further ur education to the point where u reach university look at wat catchy said already and as he said he is resitting out of choice. there r ppl thick as **** who have most likely completely bombed their gcses and they still have jobs obviously. as soon as u fail ur gcses (or just ur gcse maths even like u have said) u r not doomed to never get a job for the rest of ur life or go to university like ur exaggerating. thats the most ridiculous thing ive ever heard. there r plenty of ppl i know who didnt get Cs in maths and they still completed their A levels or have jobs. there r universities and colleges that will allow u on their courses and accomodate for ppl achieving less than Cs u do realise??? there r lazy ppl i know who screwed up their gcses fairly badly and then still did their A levels which they also failed fairly badly as well and have just finished their 1st year of uni.

stop talking out of ur ass.

http://abload.de/img/yuffiem0uyi.gif

[lemons]

why did he even write that long essay this thread is about giving a boy advice:), it wasn't about the relevance of GCSE's

[Firehorse]

I give up, it's like arguing with a brick wall.


why did he even write that long essay this thread is about giving a girl advice, it wasn't about the relevance of GCSE's

The OP is male.

[Yawn]

there r a lot of things i want 2 know about this person but i cannot afford the warning points or infractions at this stage

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I give upthis is all i needed to know......u failed to provide any of this so called experience u have. i am incredibly unsure as 2 whether u have actually lived in the real world or not at this point, i highly suspect u havent.

anyway i win :clap:

[lemons]

I give up, it's like arguing with a brick wall.



The OP is male.

amg there goes my chances of getting a job ;l I shall edit my post to satisfy you

on topic to the op: don't worry about it they were just mocks, always room for improvement

[Calum0812]

I've started to go with the not care and try better next time attitude to be honest.