Everywhere we often hear people singing about little games in a relationship, saying that little games are bad, that there should not be little games in the world, but it's never really said to us what these games are in fact
(this is a common idiom in Portuguese)
Briefly: A typical player usually starts from the premise that looking uninterested, in a relationship, is something interesting. These are typical signs of a person playing little games:
- set the rhythm of the conversations, contrasting an enthusiastic speech by responding in the most superficial way possible
- delayed replies even when the person is not that busy
- worrying about not being the last person to leave a message answered in an online chat because that would be too "humiliating"
- after adding someone, take some time to invite that person to hang out
Does that make sense to you? I personally find this one of the biggest factors that could destroy a relationship and prevent people from getting opportunities to do incredible things together in the name of a superficiality that leads us nowhere. I'm a bit more "intense", I like to ask people I care how've their days been, I'm not afraid to be the "person who starts a conversation", I embrace the deep, anyway...I think little games should be totally abolished
wby?
