It is possible to fall for a best girl-friend.

[Cixso]

Hey, I need advice on something that is troubling my mind.

I broke up from my ex GF Sarah 3 months ago. I was in a relationship with Sarah for a year and 2 months. (Online yes, she lives in Tokyo)

I then left her for a real-touchable GF, which lasted for 2 months and I have feelings for a total different girl.

This girl is also online and she is very cool, we have good laughs on skype, mess around on web cam and dress up and cry of laughter for hours and hours. I have known her for a good 5 years and we met on Habbo. Hey name is Jess. Anyways, I have feel for her once before before Christmas 2006. I have recently told her my feelings about her and she felt the same way. We decided to 'go out' to see what it's like.. see what would change.. and she goes to camp on Friday for 2 weeks. (she lives in Germany)

Before she goes, we have to make a decision if we want to take things further or if things just seem to gay. I honestly don't know what to do.. I have feelings for her, but if we do go into a relationship, we won't ever be the same again... and when we split up.. we have lost everything including the friendship..

I don't know what to do.. whether to try and let these feelings die or actually make ago and put everything thing I have worked for for 5 years on the line..

I need help from somebody in this particular situation..

What did you do? What advice can you give me?

+REP to all.

(Yes, notice how I don't care if she is in Germany or not. I'm not ashamed I date online. Think what you will about it. I really couldn't careless.)

[Paulio]

edit. i didnt read propa.

[luke-p]

Ive done this before... But my best girl friend was only a 5 min walk away... And I did tell her how I felt and we tried it and it didnt work... but were still amazingly close friends

I think you should defonetly try it, what is ment to be will work out perfectly

[Mentor]

I really cant see the point in trying takeing it futher if its an online thing o.0

Although in more genral terms my current girlfriend used to be one of my best friends, so in my experence at least it an work out just fine "/

[Cixso]

I really cant see the point in trying takeing it futher if its an online thing o.0

It's called love.

Experience it and you will understand.

[Camci]

lololol edate, you wanna be as cool as telux? u gonna get married and live in a conucilelelele flat? lol

[Miken]

If you were to date online, would you ever meet up with her?

If not, how exactly would you express your love physically to her? For me personally this would be a major, major problem. I don't fully understand how you can fully commit yourself to a partner and not be physically envolved. I think its time to move on to partners you can actually take out, kiss, hold hands with etc. I hope you don't plan on e-dating for the rest of your life as loving someone physically I can imagine is ten times more emotional then it could ever be over a screen. I'm not denying your love for someone over the internet as it's very possible, but I think meeting her is very important if you want a real relationship.

If you do plan on meeting up with her then yeh, you might aswell go for it. If it turns out to be a bad relationship, you might not be able to go back to your old freindly mannor. But you have to ask yourself is it worth the risk? She could be the one for you. If you risk your freindship it could be the best thing you've ever done.

[runetrinity]

Risk it, if you feel the same again then hopefully she will as you seem to have good relationship. Go for it Im sure if you ever decide to break up you will still have a fantastic relationship as lvoers or friends

[Nemo]

If you were to date online, would you ever meet up with her?

If not, how exactly would you express your love physically to her? For me personally this would be a major, major problem. I don't fully understand how you can fully commit yourself to a partner and not be physically envolved. I think its time to move on to partners you can actually take out, kiss, hold hands with etc. I hope you don't plan on e-dating for the rest of your life as loving someone physically I can imagine is ten times more emotional then it could ever be over a screen. I'm not denying your love for someone over the internet as it's very possible, but I think meeting her is very important if you want a real relationship.

If you do plan on meeting up with her then yeh, you might aswell go for it. If it turns out to be a bad relationship, you might not be able to go back to your old freindly mannor. But you have to ask yourself is it worth the risk? She could be the one for you. If you risk your freindship it could be the best thing you've ever done.

Agreededededed...

[Mentor]

It's called love.

Experience it and you will understand.

Ironic you say that, since i could reply with the exact same words... just with more validity :rolleyes: